Structural Family Therapy Individuals who plan to spend the rest of their lives together are charged with the task of crafting a life together. Where do they get the blueprints for building this life together? How do two people know how to join together to form a relationship known as a "couple"? The environment in which we are raised contributes a great deal to who we are and to how we interact with one another. It is only natural that we use the paradigms we grew up with as a basis for our future relationships.

However, what if the relationships one uses as a model are so deeply flawed that they ended in divorce? Structural family therapy offers a way to help address this issue by allowing individuals to develop tools that will help them navigate successfully through the confusing and conflicting stages that they will go through as they plan to share their lives together. Adult children of divorce may have specific issues to address in this regard. According to Lappin (1988), "One can say that a person's problems are a result of present relationships, or past relationships, or both. Regardless of the source of the difficulties, one must still decide what to do about them. Guidance in making these decisions is something the therapeutic alliance can provide.

Minuchin's (1972) work on the therapeutic benefits of family therapy provides the framework for this approach. He sees therapy as a "transitional event," one in which the therapist's role is to facilitate the family's transition from one stage to another. While the history of relationships is important, it is viewed as something to be explored, understood, and examined in such a way that the flawed...

Simon's (1985) of Structural Couple Therapy (SCT) takes this further, viewing this type of therapy as a way to "produce an adaptive structure for the client system." This model would be applicable to a variety of relationships, including those who are involved in divorce proceedings as well as those who are in the planning stages of a life together. Simon further describes its applicability to couples who are engaged or already married, as well as "unmarried couples whose mutual commitment is not in question" (Simon 1985).
Process of Therapeutic Change

Colapinto's work focuses on the process of therapeutic change, which takes into consideration the concept that solutions to problems in family structure are resolved through modification of this structure (Colapinto 1982). Family members develop ways of dealing with one another; within the very definition of family lay the inherent set of relationships that make up the family unit. A hierarchy is in place, and long-term habits are ingrained by the time children grow to adulthood. Adult children of divorce who are on the threshold of their own relationships have these flawed family units as basic models for their own imminent relationships. Working within Colapinto's framework, these relationships must be examined so that ways to form new relationships can be…